The Best News I’ve Had in a Long Time
A dear friend recently encouraged me with these words from the sacred text:
Behold, I am doing a new thing; now it springs forth, do you not perceive it? I will make a way in the wilderness and rivers in the desert (Isa. 43:19).
The purpose of this post is to report a new thing, a good thing, I perceive the Lord doing in my life.
Recently I’ve begun to get to know personally a godly woman in my church.
Jan Spence has been a covenant member at Orlando Grace for a couple of years now. I approached her a month ago with the notion of entertaining something more than a shepherd/sheep relationship between us. Would she even consider praying about it?, I asked–half expecting to get shot down in a ball of flames.
Though my initiative shocked her somewhat, she chose not to run for her life. She prayed. Then she hit me with some forthright, understandably necessary questions. I answered each honestly before the Lord. And then she said, “Yes, I’m willing.”
Well, what in the world to do now? Needless to say, I’ve not swum in these for waters for decades. And Jan has been quite content in her singleness for the last twelve years. We decided to talk on the phone initially keeping things between the two of us.
The more questions we asked of each other and responses we shared, the more our mutual attraction began growing. We quickly discerned the wisdom of confiding in the elders of our church for their protection and counsel. Much guidance has come through them. We welcome their ongoing accountability.
Our biggest puzzle has been how to go public with the news. Both of us want to love our church and friends well. My role as a pastor requires extra care here in guarding the welfare of my church to the degree that I can. Jan wants that very much as well. We have no peace about people learning this piecemeal through here-and-there conversations.
So, the more we prayed and counseled, the more we settled on my doing what I always do. Blog. I’ve sought to cultivate my author’s voice through this medium for years now. It has served me well both in keeping folks up to speed with my health issues and my family losses.
We simply cannot think of a better way to inform as many folks at the same time as possible. Furthermore this creates a written account of things so that those who hear secondhand have a resource to access for the firsthand version.
Jan wisely asked me about my grief process in mourning Nancy. I don’t know that the sense of loss attached to losing someone so special in your life ever completely ends. Honestly, I have wondered myself at times about the place of contentment I found on the other side of my bereavement leave.
I attribute that to God’s grace, enormous support, confidence of Nan’s eternal destiny, focusing on the great marriage we had—almost 42 years I never deserved—and, finally, the anticipatory grief I experienced for fifteen months, which I spoke about in my last post.
But there comes a time for moving on when spiritual, emotional, and mental health permit. Those who know me best validate that God has done a work in helping me in this regard.
The affirmation Jan and I have received from our spiritual leadership, closest confidants, and our extended families has given us great encouragement to continue down the road of exploring what God has for us.
With all the heartache and suffering of late, I welcome this providence as God’s gift and could not be happier for it. Perhaps Psalm 30:11-12 best summarizes my sentiments:
11 You have turned for me my mourning into dancing;
you have loosed my sackcloth
and clothed me with gladness,
12 that my glory may sing your praise and not be silent.
O Lord my God, I will give thanks to you forever!
In case anyone at OGC is wondering . . . I have asked Jan if she will sit with me on Sundays at church. Though the challenge of assuming a seat once occupied by Nancy is not lost on her, she has agreed to that as well.
Please pray for us to abide in the will of God at every turn as we wait on Him and continue to get to know one another. Thank you.
Wow Curt. She certainly is a wonderful gal. Thanks for sharing it! Patty
That she is, Patty. You’re welcome and thank you for your comment.
I would say it is a small world, but with our Heavenly Father it really isn’t. I have known Jan since college and ministry during college. She is a precious Gem, a loyal friend, Godly woman, full of life and laughter. God could not have brought a more wonderful person into your life. Doug and I wish you both all of God’s blessings as you enter into this next chapter of both of your lives. Please give that sweet lady a hug from us! Hugs to you too!
Sally, I had no idea about your connection to Jan. Thanks for your kind words of support and encouragement. I shall be delighted to deliver that hug for you.
My prayers continue for you brother. May God continue to lead you by His mighty and good hand.
Thank you, sir.
I am happy to observe this new chapter you are writing, and will be praying for Gods divine hand upon you both, as you move forward. Blessings, Mary Russell
Thanks so much, Mary!
I am so thankful to hear of this wonderful “new thing” that God is doing in your life! Beauty for ashes!
Please pray for Steve and I as we seek counseling for help as our grief has brought us to separate from each other.
We are praying that God will do a “new thing” in our relationship after 49 years of marriage. Thanks!
Julie, I am so sorry to hear this. Such a hard thing. Of course I will pray. Thanks for reaching out.
Thank You Curt for sharing your wonderful news first hand. I will lift you both up. I love you Curt. I know Jan as a woman that guards her heart for Godly things. Blessings, Steve
Thanks, brother. So grateful for your friendship and prayers!
There isn’t a more amazing woman that I know of! Jan is a most beautiful example of godly, beautiful, sweet, loving, talented, and every other wonderful word there is to describe an incredible woman. We will always pray for you and for your relationship with God and with Jan.
Thanks, Lisa. On target description for sure. Thanks for your prayers and your comment!