After reading this morning’s headline about the golfer’s exit from golf for now and his statement confessing infidelity in his marriage, I clicked on his website. His signature (pictured above), attached to his statement, is the only image in the main window. You can read what he has to say here.
While this news may not make for a good day for the PGA tour and golf lovers everywhere, Tiger Woods may end up regarding it one of the best days of his life.
I say that because of a verse from Scripture like Proverbs 28:13.
Whoever conceals his transgressions will not prosper, but he who confesses and forsakes them will obtain mercy.
Woods’ confession may well possess all the components of what Ken Sande, in his book, The Peacemaker, calls the Seven A’s of Confession.
- Address everyone involved (All those whom you affected) – he has made this statement for all the world to see.
- Avoid if, but, and maybe (Do not try to excuse your wrongs) – there appear to be no such clauses in his confession.
- Admit specifically (Both attitudes and actions) – he names his actions infidelity and rightly so.
- Acknowledge the hurt (Express sorrow for hurting someone) – he begins the statement, “I am deeply aware of the disappointment and hurt.”
- Accept the consequences (Such as making restitution) – stepping away from golf indefinitely certainly qualifies for this.
- Alter your behavior (Change your attitudes and actions) – the attitude appears altered, but only time will tell if actions change as well.
- Ask for forgiveness – he says the very words in his statement, “I ask forgiveness.”
Ken Sande often adds an eighth A under the seventh, namely, allow for time. It will take perhaps a very long while for Tiger to win back his wife’s trust. May we wish him well in that endeavor. Reconciliation/restoration of marriages honors God, the ultimate peacemaker.
Only one more thing could turn this good day into a very, very good day for Tiger Woods. If it turns out somewhere along the line that Psalm 32:1-5 applies to him as a result of this fall from grace, he will learn to call this his best of days.
Blessed is the one whose transgression is forgiven,
whose sin is covered.
2 Blessed is the man against whom the Lord counts no iniquity,
and in whose spirit there is no deceit.
3 For when I kept silent, my bones wasted away
through my groaning all day long.
4 For day and night your hand was heavy upon me;
my strength was dried up as by the heat of summer. Selah
5 I acknowledged my sin to you,
and I did not cover my iniquity;
I said, “I will confess my transgressions to the Lord,”
and you forgave the iniquity of my sin. Selah
The biggest thing missing from Tiger Woods’ statement is any reference to God and the offense his sin makes before the Most High.
Oh that he, that we, might know the supreme blessedness of “you forgave the iniquity of my sin” through the good news of the gospel that Jesus Christ stood in his, our place, for things like infidelity and every other sin that condemns us and puts us rightly under His wrath.
The day we obtain mercy, not just from our wives, or children, or the public, but from God, that indeed is the best of all days in our life.