One of my sheep sent this shepherd a post from a counseling website labeled Excellent Evaluation Question.
Drawing from Hebrews 13:17, the counselor sometimes challenges his clients to ask their pastor, and other significant people in their lives for that matter, the risky question, Am I a joy?
The application gets unpacked this way:
This is a fantastic question for you to ask your pastor. And should you ask your pastor this question, then take it further. Ask him to give you specific areas in your life, where you have been a joy to pastor. But don’t stop there. Keep pressing the issue. Also ask him for specific areas in which you need to address or change. Can you imagine if your son came to you and asked you if he was a joy to parent? If so, then you can imagine how any pastor would feel if one of his congregants came and asked a similar question.
Let me press the application a bit further. Ask these questions if they apply:
- Ask your spouse if you are a joy to them. Why or why not?
- Ask your small group leader if you are a joy to serve, lead, teach and equip.
- Ask your children if you are joy to follow. Why or why not?
- Additionally, a child can ask a parent if they are a joy to parent.
Note the responses you get and share with a close friend. This should give you much to chat about.
Yes, I would rather guess so. Of course he could turn the tables on me with the challenge to ask Am I a joy to follow? Why or why not?
Again, risky stuff, but worth thinking about.